Dear Olivia Wilde: Men Need Encouragement, Too

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Perhaps it’s because I am a mom of boys, or maybe it’s because I love the men in my life, but I bristle when women—and it’s usually women—talk about making the world harder for men because they happen to have XY chromosomes. It’s rank misandry, and it has to stop.

It only stops when we start calling out the women who push this nonsense, like actress Olivia Wilde, who thinks the world shouldn’t help young men.

“Wow! Lack of an encouraging word is so absurd,” Wilde says, laughing. “I’d say there is a large, booming word of encouragement happening at all times for these men, which is just this world is yours, and you are entitled to it. Which I think is deeply ingrained in our society. And the idea that they need some sort of reminder of encouragement. That they deserve more is ludicrous.”

Wilde is cruel and delusional. She has a 12-year-old son named Otis. Is she telling me that she doesn’t encourage him? That she doesn’t tell him he’s doing a good job, comfort him when he has a bad day, or provide support for him because he’s male?

What a terrible mother she is if that’s the case.

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If it’s not, her son will hear these remarks one day and realize that his mother hates him.

Men are most often the victims of violent crime, and men die by suicide at rates four times higher than women. Of the world’s dangerous professions, including logging, fishing, and construction, the workforces are overwhelmingly male. Men account for 98 percent of all U.S. military deaths and casualties.

Woke employers routinely and publicly brag about not hiring white men and not promoting the white men who do work for them. If you’re a man who is going through a divorce, good luck. Most states will rake you over the coals, including some that will make you pay child support for children that are not biologically yours.

In colleges, all a woman has to do is say you raped her and your life is upended, often permanently. In 2002, 16-year-old football player Brian Banks, a high school All-American, was verbally committed to USC. He was accused of kidnapping and rape by a classmate, Wanetta Gibson. Terrified of facing 41 years to life in prison, Banks took a plea deal that put him behind bars for five years, followed by five years of probation and inclusion on the sex offender registry. Ten years later, Gibson admitted she made the whole thing up. Gibson was later ordered to pay Banks $2.6 million in restitution. 

Good luck collecting that. A more fitting punishment would have been to send Gibson to prison for 41 years to life, but that’ll never happen. Believe all women. Or something.

Does this really sound like a world made to cater to men like Banks, Olivia? Heaven forbid we say a few kind things to a man who lost a promising football career because a woman lied. Heaven forbid we treat men like human beings because Wilde has to stamp her “I’m a Good Feminist” card a few more times. She lives in a world built and maintained by men and that dreaded, so-called “toxic masculinity.”

If you don’t believe that, I ask you to look at how women run the WNBA.

Men need love and encouragement. The world is hard enough, and today’s society has decided to further stack the deck against men in some sick eye-for-an-eye retribution over perceived past ills. That Wilde finds this basic humanity beyond the pale says a lot about her, and none of it good.